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You Should Be Grateful

October 5th, 2022

Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption

“Your parents are so amazing for adopting you. You should be grateful!” Angela Tucker is a Black woman, adopted from foster care by white parents. She has heard this microaggression her entire life, usually from well-intentioned strangers who view her adoptive parents as noble saviors.  She is grateful for many aspects of her life, but being transracially adopted involves layers of rejection, loss and complexity that cannot be summed up so easily.

Tucker centers the experiences of adoptees through sharing deeply personal stories, well-researched history and engrossing anecdotes from mentorship sessions with adopted youth. These perspectives challenge the fairy-tale narrative of adoption giving way to a fuller story that includes the impacts of racism, classism, family, love and belonging.

For more information please visit www.angelatucker.com.


Angela Tucker is an adoptee committed to advancing the conversation, not just having one. As a black woman adopted from foster care to a white family, and growing up in a city that was demographically only 1% Black, she understands the power of life’s most difficult moments. Her determination and insatiable curiosity is an inspiration to many and is on display through her search for her biological parents in the documentary, Closure. Her unique upbringing has encouraged an expansive and inclusive definition of family. Learn more about Angela at www.angelatucker.com.

For more see The Adopted Life podcast and the film page as well as The Adoptee Mentoring Society